Some mothers will try, God bless them. Yet, something usually lacks whether it is the taste of food, the uncleanliness of the household, unruly children, or something else, holiday preparation is just too much for some people. They will want their visitors to be kind, understanding, polite, etc. about their short-comings. But when you are dealing with family and close friends, they will offer constructive criticism and will advise against hosting if you miserably fail--be it right or wrong, truth is truth.
Hosts that are not use to being hospitable, preparing large meals, decorating homes, and disciplining children will have a hard time receiving feedback. The best thing any person, who has took on such a feat can do, is either learn from the experience and plan better next time or make the holiday event your first and last. Sometimes partners will advise against wives/girlfriends doing such things from the start, not just because event planning is costly, but also because they know their women aren't good at it and so the men too become tired and miserable listening to all the negativity that comes with holiday prepping. Unfortunately, some marriages are severely tested because women want to play the role of Superwoman, but only end up being worn-out and cranky women.
Depending on the type of personalities your visitors have will determine just how supportive they really are. Those guests, who mean well, will offer to pitch in and help even though some stubborn hosts will refuse their service--they should take it. Others will sit back and watch the movie, so to speak. If it ends well, so be it, but if not, they will come away from the event with much to talk about including the negative attitude of the host, her unsupportive mate, and her disrespectful or wild children.
When one feels tired and miserable due to holiday planning and all that comes with it, know that others see this. It would be best to learn early on to delegate responsibility if you should plan to do this annually or for each holiday. Otherwise, you will burnout before the holiday season really gets underway and no one wants to see a crying mother during a time that is supposed to be heart-warming.
Nicholl McGuire shares spiritual wisdom at YouTube channel: nmenterprise7